Chapter 101 Difficult Encounters
Medical Knowledge and Patient Care
A more insidious type of difficult encounter occurs with parents of children with terminal, chronic, or fabricated disease (Munchausen syndrome by proxy). Over time the doctor–patient relationship may become strained because the parent becomes increasingly dissatisfied and demanding, despite tremendous effort by the doctor. In this case, almost every encounter with the parent is difficult.1 Decision making in palliative care of a dying child may lead to difficult discussions about how much or how little treatment should be given.2
When a child is diagnosed with a terminal or chronic disease, caregivers need accurate, consistent information about the illness, treatment options, and prognosis. Caregivers/parents, and at times the child, need to be involved in the decision-making process. Their opinions need to be respected. Physicians caring for terminally ill children should be knowledgeable about palliative care and pain management. It is important to develop a care plan including directives about life-sustaining measures.2 The goal is to keep the child comfortable and prevent unnecessary procedures and therapies.
Medical knowledge of risk factors, signs, symptoms, and physical examination findings about physical/sexual abuse and child neglect is the key to recognition. Heightened awareness leads to timely reporting to child protection agencies and law enforcement and can potentially save the child’s life or prevent future mental and physical disability in the child and his or her siblings.3
Practice-Based Learning and Improvement
Learn by Reviewing: What Precipitated the Encounter? How Was It Handled?
Some difficult encounters can be prevented or dealt with more effectively by applying practice-based learning and improvement principles. Examples of these types of encounters include those involving medical errors, parent anger and frustration regarding office practices, or parental mental health issues. After such an encounter, all involved should evaluate what precipitated the encounter and how it was handled. Resources such as books, journal articles, and Web-based materials pertaining to the situation can help identify ways to change office policies or to discuss the difficult situations with the child’s parent. References 1 to 6 are particularly helpful resources for handling various “difficult encounters.” Mental health professionals can offer advice about improving therapeutic relationships with difficult caregivers.1 Other subspecialists can help improve disease management in your office, including developing guidelines for appropriate referrals to them.